Tiara Lestari's Personal Journal

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Wednesday, October 19, 2005

Bare my soul(mate)


We all agree that a soulmate is someone who was MEANT for you and MEANT to be with you.

Soulmate for me is a bestfriend above all else, someone who motivates you, makes you laugh easily, someone who listen patienly to what I have to say, someone who I can say anything to, someone who let me be a "monster" but will forgive me quickly when I apologize. Essentially, someone who will stand by you. We think alike, share the same interests and has common value. He makes a dramatic impact in my life(and I don't even rely it sometimes). He makes me to be a better person. He connects with me in a way that I can't explain... you know, we know what each other are thinking by just looking and smiling at each other. He always seem to always finish my sentences.

He completes me in way that when we are both together we are so much stronger as whole than when we are alone. And when we are away from each other I feel like a part of me is missing. We are comfortable together in silence. He would gladly put me and my needs ahead of his own. He has a deep desire to provide me with all that I am missing from my life.

Does the long description above enough for you guys? There is one man in my life that fit the above description. Is he my soulmate? Probably you would say yes. But let me point something to you.. I am not with him now. I have called one person a soulmate in my life and that is him. Yet, we're not together anymore. Whatever happened between us, he always hold a special place in my heart and I thank him. From the bottom of my soul, I thank him for the love he gave me and the friendship we had (have).

Let me ask you again. Is he my soulmate? Or do I need to define "soulmate" better?

Tiara

PS: Adi, Andre, Lucia, Farah.. one of you will have a chance to chat online one on one with me! Please email me why you should be the one I talk to.. Tiaralestar@yahoo.com.

posted by TiaraLestari @ 11:25 PM  

24 Comments:

  • At October 20, 2005 1:46 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I agree what u decript about a 'soulmate'. a 'soulmate' meets all categories what u write there.

    why he leaving u? Apa dia gak bisa menerima mu? ataukah, kmu yg melepaskannya?

     

  • At October 20, 2005 3:04 AM, Blogger TiaraLestari said…

    Dave,

    I love you and I meant every word I wrote about you in the posting. I can't explain why certain things happend in my life the way it did. But I can tell you I do love you.

    You have taught me everything I know about life. I thank you for that.You will always hold a special place in my heart. But now I am happy. With him. I am asking you to please move on with your life. Please.

    Tiara

     

  • At October 20, 2005 4:38 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Wow.
    This dialogue sounds so familiar, I'm having relationship flashback, oh no.

     

  • At October 20, 2005 12:57 PM, Blogger DD said…

    C'mon, Tiara. Give 'em a break. Finding a job and having to answer " why you should be the one getting the job" is already hard enuff. Give 'em all the chance for one on one. Won't hurt you i promise.

     

  • At October 20, 2005 6:55 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Wow, now this is personal! I can't help wondering how Tiara's current boyfriend would feel reading this. This only makes me want to know the answer to the 'naked' question even more: why would anyone want to say this stuff in front of the whole world?

    Without knowing what actually happened between you Tiara I can't really speculate, but obviously something didn't work, which to my mind precludes David from being your true soulmate, at least in theory. I'm guessing that when you had to move overseas to pursue your career he did not want to go (or was not able to go) with you. Am I right? If so, was this becasue of other responsibilities or because he was not fully supportive of your modeling career? If the latter then he isn't your true soulmate; if the former then that is sad.

     

  • At October 20, 2005 9:23 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    It is a meeting of the mind, body and soul.

    Mind- where one does not feel or see the boundaries that exist between two people. One's feelings for each other is on a different plane altogether. It goes beyond love. Spiritual. One can know what the other is feeling even when one is not beside the other. Having feelings communicated through the unconscious mind or instincts. Almost out of body experience.

    Soul- the comfort one feels for the other goes beyond any questions one may have in any other realtionship. The meeting of the soul provides a level of ease that precludes any feeling of discomfort. It is the simplicity of it all; being comfortable.

     

  • At October 20, 2005 9:44 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I honestly think that you can only call friends, lovers, couples etc as soulmates after they're, ah, well, dead. As long as we still live, there's no telling what would happen in the future. Not just because people part ways, but people change, including the one you used to feel so comfortable or so compatible. People who used to be able to finish each other's sentences may one day turn to be strangers who seems as if they never met, as if the past didn't happen.

    So who is/are your soulmate/s? Only other people can tell you who they are, after you're gone. Only then have you passed the test of being a true soulmate and not just a romantic branding.

    Just my two cents.

     

  • At October 20, 2005 9:52 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Wow! This is the best blog yet! I see your ex-boyfriedns posting. After reading both of yours, I am very confused. What I read this moring was amazing. Everyone would do ANYTHING to have the kind of love you and Dave seem to have (had). It is a once in lifetime. I must be missing something because it sounds like you both love each other very much. Two poeple search whole lives to find that level of love and caring. And what he write is so honest & touching, you can feel how much he TRULY loves you!

    He must do something very bad for you to change boyfriends. What was bad part? I see beautiful rign on your finger in photo.Did you both plan marriage? Your new boyfiend must be very very special for you to not want to be with someone who seem they want marry you and have family. Isnt that what you write was your main goal in life???? Maybe your scared ex-BF not gonna be good husband/father??

    There is something very sad here. EIther you know already new BF is the right man for your future or you have jsut walked away from greatest thing in your life.

     

  • At October 20, 2005 10:36 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    honestly...
    you have a great words from ur heart to explain what is "soulmate" means. i'm very like it....

    be happy n success :)

     

  • At October 20, 2005 11:42 PM, Blogger TiaraLestari said…

    Guys, I want to be clear since now it is out in the open. Dave never did anything wrong. He is just that. Perfect. Too perfect. Why did I leave him for my current boyfriend. I don't know.

    What I do know is the first time I met my current BF, someting moved me in a way I can't explain. I still can't. Is that wrong? It doesn't feel wrong to me.

    Do I love my current BF? Yes. Do I love Dave? yes. It is my choice to be where I am right now. It doesn't take anything away from the fact that Dave was a perfect boyfriend.

    Tiara

     

  • At October 21, 2005 2:42 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    As Dr. Lee said, "OBVIOUSLY something didn't work" with your ex. Therefore David cant be your true soulmate.

    What part didn't work??? He had to do somethign wrong for u want to leave him? And to change boyfriends???

     

  • At October 21, 2005 8:13 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Reality Bites....

    Hurts...
    Pains...
    Confused...
    Lost...
    Choose..
    Move On...

    Dude, move on, she doesn't love you anymore...

    She's just try to be nice by saying she still love you... BUT... matter of fact... She already found her soulmate now...

     

  • At October 22, 2005 5:49 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Well Tiara, seeing as you're being so honest I'll be honest with you. The reasons you state for leaving Dave to be with your present boyfriend sound very frivolous and shallow. There must be more to your reasons for doing this than what you're telling us, right?

     

  • At October 22, 2005 6:23 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    ah, the good doctor..
    also sounded like my ex actually

     

  • At October 23, 2005 4:34 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    actually we share the same meanings of soulmates and there is a little differences, I believe that when God created me as one soul and put it to my body, it appears that my body cannot hold a soul of that big so He has to split my soul into 2 parts, one is me and the other is my soulmate, the one that complements, my missing part, and she is my wife.

     

  • At October 23, 2005 9:58 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Tiara - what have you done??? I have seen you and the tall blonde guy - must be your ex-Dave. You two looked like the perfect couple. YOu are smokin hot but were COMPLETELY into that guy. You even showed off your ring and said you were engaged ("not available" I remember!!).

    I have seen you two togehter and if everything you say about your ex is true (he's your soulmate), what are you doing with some new dude? Did you call off the engagement or did he?

    I know one thing, if your new boyfriend is the smug loser trying to rub it in to your ex under the posting by "Regalia" above - you really have made a huge mistake. What a wanker!

    Go back to your ex Tiara. Dont walk. Run!!!

     

  • At October 23, 2005 10:19 PM, Blogger Mockingbird said…

    We all thought our boyfriends and girlfriends were our soulmates until we married them. Of course, it take efforts from both parties to keep a marriage alive. Without effort from both parties, a soulmate can become a hellmate.

     

  • At October 25, 2005 10:16 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    This is what Elvis said at his song...

    "Honey, you lied when you said you love me but I have no calls to doubt you"

     

  • At November 06, 2005 3:52 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hey there,

    I didn't have the opportunity to read whatever it was Dave had posted, but from the inferences made in reader comments here, as well as comments by Tiara herself, I’ve pretty much come to the same conclusions Dr. Lee makes several comments above this one, but I’m not afraid to peel this onion back just a tad more…

    Leaving all this hocus-pocus metaphysical bunk about "soul mates" aside, it sounds as though you’ve flushed a good thing right down the toilet for no apparent justifiable reason, other than the equivalent of saying "Gosh, destiny sure is funny sometimes". Frankly, your story of how you met this new fellow, the “three days” rule, the dinner banter, the rose story, et al… It all sounds like this guy is deftly orchestrating every trick in the “How to Pickup Hot Chicks” book and you’ve fallen for it all hook, line and sinker... Good for him, I always wondered if that crap actually worked. Apparently it does, as you are indeed one “Hot Chick”.

    Maybe he’s a natural at it, but I really hope I don’t stumble across your site again to find a future post with you waxing romantic about coming home to find 11 real red roses and a single artificial rose rose in a bouquet with a note on it that says, “I’ll love you until the last rose fades” or a post where he insists you allow him to hire a bodyguard for you when you fly off on your next assignment and then he hands you a small teddy bear that says “Tiara’s Bodyguard” as you pass through the airport security gate.

    Excuse me, I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. Let me catch my bearings.

    Ok, better...

    Before you get any cozier with your new beau, I would suggest you take a look at some particular reading material available out there, including: “101 Romantic Ideas”, “How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You”, “The Game” and “The Art of Seduction”. You may be quite surprised, and then you’ll probably also vomit all over your beautiful self, because it really sounds as though you’re being led down the primrose path; perhaps willingly so... You seem like a bright girl, aforementioned comments notwithstanding.

    As Dr. Lee postulates, there must be something more to all of this, and if we take you at your word, not being able to offer any other reasonable explanation for your behavior, then it certainly sounds like a job for Occam’s Razor.

    That being said, I’ve also read some of the comments left by “Your David”, who I’ll assume is actually your ex. He’s reacting to the situation less like a man, and a hell of a lot more like a 12 year old boy who’s lost his favorite ice cream cone to the bully on the beach... I feel for ya pal. It’s tough to be the one that’s cast aside for another, for any reason, but you’ve got to realize that love hurts, life sucks and get a friggin’ helmet. If anything, your backhanded comments are making your chances for any kind of reconciliation worse! If you’re as wonderful as Tiara says you are, accept that and move on. Pretty girls are a dime a dozen. Pretty girls that are as seemingly insightful and beguiling as Tiara appears to be are certainly rarer, but they’re out there. Get back on the saddle, cowboy up, and try not to be such a little whiny Nancy about it. I’m guessing young Tiara will snap out of this funk soon enough… Don’t give her any reasons to feel differently about you by whining about the situation on her blog.

    Then again, perhaps Tiara simply does feel stonger attraction to this new fella, and she simply wants to let you down easy. From that perspective, I don't think I've ever read a more eloquent way for someone to present the old "It's not you, it's me" speech before. Perhaps Tiara's more intelligent and considerate than I give her credit for... And if that's actually the case, then yeah... Destiny really is funny.

    I'm all out of quotation marks,

    Trent

     

  • At November 24, 2005 2:16 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    at least you have known how it felt to be with him. How do you feel if you meet someone who you can share everything and understand anything about you and yet can't be together

    at least, at this very moment ever since I've known her

     

  • At November 26, 2005 7:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    http://www.asian4you.com/webmaster/galleries/petchara-002dcvfd/fc013.jpg

     

  • At November 26, 2005 7:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

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  • At January 19, 2006 8:04 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hi Tiara,

    Answering your question: "Is he my soulmate?" He very well can be. Soulmate does not mean you have to be physically together with that person. Both already knew that they belong together in a special way and usually in a way that only they can understand.

     

  • At May 01, 2007 9:53 PM, Blogger Unknown said…

    erm... this may have nothing to do with this particular blog entry of yours. Rather it has something to do with all of them...

    Your writing is really quite good (in my humble opinion). Just a thought, but do you write professionally?

    I also admire your restraint in handling your detractors and the crowd of idiots that hound you.

    I hope you continue to hold your head up and be yet another example that a person should never apologise for doing something they believe is right ( just keep it humane though).

    Cheers to you
    PK

     

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