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Saturday, October 29, 2005

In search of my soul (mate)...

I received so many emails regarding the soulmate posting. One in particular is from a guy named Takeshi. Since there are some of you who still bent out of shape from that posting, I decided to post his email. I hope you -who are still bothered- can accept his email as a representation of my feelings about the issue. Trust me when I say I do have a strong feeling about the issue.

Honestly, this email is way too beautiful to be left in the private area of my yahoo inbox. Thank you Takeshi!

"Tiara,
In my opinion, you just have not met your soulmate yet. So the change in your heart is nothing strange to me.

There are some kind of words to express feelings between man and woman just like Love and Affection. In case of Japanese language, there are Ai and Koi. I think most of the people think the meaning is almost same or even have never paid attention. So I did. But a Japanese novelist once gave me a hint. After many years passed since that, now I almost understand what he ment. He wrote like this:

Koi (¢â Love) is a natural feeling that we want to be with the person, but Ai (¢â affection) is an intention to be with the person.

Koi has its own logic. Nobody can explain it by words or common sense. Just like you are at a loss how to express what happened in your heart now.

But Ai is an strong intention to be with the person, whatever happens. If somebody makes you feel like that, he is the soulmate to you, I think.

I believe that I could have had a soulmate. Hubungan kami sudah 6 tahun. To say the truth I sometimes feel boring to be with her, and sometimes I am fascinated by another girl. But still, I can find strong intention inside me to be with her, which I did not have when I was younger.
Saya sudah yakin bahwa saya tetap mau bersamanya, walaupun dia sudah jadi nenek......
I can confirm that this is not temporary feeling like Koi, but Ai.

So I believe that you will also meet a man that make you feel like that.
Until that time, you have only to be youreself.
Jalannya masih panjang deh.

Take care and don't brood over too much !

Takeshi"


There you go guys...

Tiara

13 Comments:

  • At October 29, 2005 6:32 AM, Anonymous raya said…

    naah...
    y'know, the guys are just a bit "bent out of shape" because they wish they can be your soulmate, right guys? riiiiiiight...

    so where were we with the donut thing?

     
  • At October 29, 2005 7:24 AM, Anonymous Dr. Lee said…

    So in essence you are now saying that you haven't yet met your soulmate?

    Interestingly, a few years ago I met a girl who I could say is my soulmate. We understand each other inately, and I can read her face like a book. And even though we come from completely different cultural backgrounds (she is Vietnamese and I am Australian), we even somehow look alike!

    But when I met her I was in a relationship with somebody else, and I am still in a relationship with that person. And in part this is because she is so different from me. Each of us is strong where the other is weak, so we help each other to become better, more complete people.

    If I was with the girl who could be my 'soulmate', I could only ever be what I already am - nothing more. Perhaps this might be the real reason you moved on from your previous boyfriend Tiara?

     
  • At October 29, 2005 10:24 AM, Anonymous Lucia said…

    This topic really confuses me.. I heard somewhere, that there's "soulmate" and there's "idealmate". Are you guys really talking about soulmate? AGGhhh.. confusing.. hehehehe

     
  • At October 29, 2005 10:26 AM, Anonymous Lucia said…

    Forgot to say one more thing.. i agree with takeshi. That's pretty much my point of view about soulmate..

    Cheers

     
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  • At October 29, 2005 10:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    wow.. apparently someone forgot their medicine today? Uh sir.. hello.. busy with cut and paste today?

     
  • At October 30, 2005 6:29 AM, Anonymous chalky26 said…

    An interesting article to read on this subject is the comments from Madonna on her husband Guy Ritchie. Of how at first she hated him and now she realises that he is in fact her soulmate.

    Thank you Takeshi and also Tiara for sharing with us a particularly erudite mail. Which is more than can be said for one of the mails in the comments. Perhaps this one can be removed so as to avoid further offence being caused. There is already too much ugliness in the world without it spilling over into this blog

     
  • At October 30, 2005 5:09 PM, Blogger Mickell said…

    All the best in your search for a soulmate :D

     
  • At October 31, 2005 9:09 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    nggak terlalu menarik.

    gre-
    http://daunlontar.blogspot.com

     
  • At November 06, 2005 2:06 PM, Anonymous Trent Wolodko said…

    The ideal of the 'classical soulmate' is a bunch of hogwash that used to be a nice little bedtime story now being milked for the purpose of selling a fantasy to people, via magazines, romance novels, metaphysical reference books, feature films and gimmicky websites... And it sells like crazy.

    Ultimately compatible couples? Absolutely possible.

    Kindred spirits that are intertwined for all eternity?
    Give me a break.

    There apparently is such a thing as "Modern Soulmate Theory" which claims to be based on "science". Upon further study I've determined that it too belongs in the dustbin. The conclusions they draw from their flawed math, as well as continuing to attach the "soulmate" moniker to their study, tells me that it's more than likely a marketing ploy by a secular love-match website then actual cold hard science.

     
  • At November 08, 2005 8:33 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I don't believe such crap...just a dinner? c'mon tiara, you could disclose more than that ;)

    Don't you one who wants to open your legs just for everyone?

    Btw, I noticed you have that "censorship" here. My suggestion, leave them all the pros and cons for other to judge. Why afraid, tiara?

     
  • At November 12, 2005 8:29 AM, Blogger ddee said…

    To "anonymous"

    Why did you "censor" your own nick? afraid to reveal yourself?

     
  • At September 19, 2006 1:38 PM, Anonymous lucky said…

    Aku sanyang kamu. Aku pengen menjilati payudaramu...Ohmmm mmhhh...mmmmhhhh

     

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