Slut, stud and MR. Publisher

This morning in my hometown of Solo, I got an interesting phone call from my good friend in Jakarta. He met a friend who is a well known publisher of some magazines in Jakarta. Lets call him Mr. R.

I don't know how their conversation started, but it ended with Mr. R proud and boastful claimed that he had slept with me. "Twice!" Mr R. said to him.

I don't understand why it is so important for some of you men to declare who you have slept with? Is that part of your existence being a man? Being a big man? Isn't it enough for you to have your sexual fling with someone and enjoyed them without having to declare them to the world? It's certainly doesn't make your pen**s bigger does it Mr. R? Puzzling.

And there is this whole classic, yet proven double standard issue that bothers me. Let us supposed that I was the one who claim to my friend that I had slept with MR. R. I am sure not a single person would think of me as a "bigger-better woman". Would you? Matter of fact, it would be just the opposite. People would look down on me. Puzzling. Irritating.

Why is it when a man do it a lot (and "talk" it a lot), he is called a "stud", but when a woman do it a lot, she is called a "slut"?? Puzzling. Infuriating.

Do you know what's worst? I have never met Mr. R! Not once.

Mr. R, if you're reading this: I don't care who you are, I don't care how much money you have. If you have to claim that you've slept with me and never actually met me, you are not even in the same class I am. You are not even worth the piercing look I will give you if I ever see you. Look and enjoy my pictures in this blog or get more of them from the internet. That is as far as you will get with me. Better yet, write about your boastful claim in your magazine. You are a publisher right?? If you are going to make something up, why not write about it too. Keep dreaming.

For other men with money in their pocket. A little newsflash: Not all models are for "sale". I am not blind to what is going on in Jakarta. I know there are those "for sale" types crawling around pages of magazines in Jakarta. We are NOT ALL like that. I am not for sale. Don't even think of it.

I have appeared in an internationally known -and respected- magazines. Not your type of magazine Mr. R. Do not think for a second I am going to some hotel room with you anytime soon. I am a professional model. That is what I do. Enjoy the art. And if you think I am "easy", you are sadly mistaken. Annoyingly sad.

Tiara